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justifies it. Inevitably the child concludes that her innate badness is the cause. The child seizes
upon this explanation early and clings to it tenaciously, for it enables her to preserve a sense of
meaning, hope and power. . .
‘Self-blame is congruent with normal forms of thought in early childhood in which the self is taken
as the reference point for all events. It is congruent with the thought processes of traumatized people
of all ages, who search for faults in their own behaviour in an effort to make sense out of what has
happened to them. In the environment of chronic abuse, however, neither time nor experience
provide any corrective for this tendency towards self-blame; rather it is continually reinforced. . .
‘By developing a contaminated, stigmatized identity, the child victim takes the evil of the abuser
into herself and thereby preserves her primary attachments to her parents. Because the inner sense
of badness preserves a relationship, it is not readily given up even after the abuse has stopped;
rather it becomes a stable part of the child’s personality structure. Protective workers who intervene
in discovered cases of abuse routinely assure child victims that they are not at fault. Just as routinely
the children refuse to be absolved of blame. Similarly, adult survivors who have escaped from the
abusive situation continue to view themselves with contempt and to take upon themselves the shame
and guilt of their abusers. The profound sense of inner badness becomes the core around which the
abused child’s identity is formed, and persists into adult life. . .
‘As survivors attempt to negotiate adult relationships, the psychological defences formed in
childhood become increasingly maladaptive. Double-think and a double self are ingenious
childhood adaptations to a familial climate of coercive control, but they are worse than useless in a
climate of freedom and adult responsibility. They prevent the development of mutual intimate
relationships or an integrated identity. As the survivor struggles with the tasks of adult life, the
legacy of her childhood becomes increasingly burdensome. Eventually, often in the third or fourth
decade of life, the defensive structure may begin to break down. Often the precipitant is a change in
the equilibrium of close relationships: the failure of a marriage, the birth of a child, the illness or